My Friendly Little Guy

Daniel has never suffered from that common toddler condition known as "stranger anxiety." In fact, he has demonstrated social behavior that far surpasses most adults' level of friendliness. I like to tell people that he is a big flirt. But it's more than that. Sure, he loves the attention. Who doesn't? Daniel's brand of friendliness, however, involves more than simply feeling comfortable around strangers. First and foremost, he waves constantly. He waves at salespeople in stores, checkout clerks at the grocery store, people standing in line at the deli counter, waiters in restaurants, and other children pretty much wherever he goes. He doesn't wait for them to acknowledge his presence. Rather, I believe he waves unconditionally, in the hopes that his target will notice him and make a fuss. Most of the time, he successfully achieves his goal. I've even caught him waving at trucks while riding along in the car.

Another indicator of his friendliness is his smile. Once he has caught someone's eye, Daniel turns on the charm with a thousand-watt smile that could melt even the iciest of hearts. He usually smiles at women, but I've caught him charming the guys, too (usually nice little old men, but still...). Daniel's favorite scenario is when he is noticed while playing the role of the casual observer. He'll be staring at someone with whom I'm engaged in some sort of transaction, and that person will stop what he or she is doing to acknowledge him. Before he responds with a smile or wave, he glances at me with a small grin as if to ask permission to communicate with the stranger. I nod or smile at him, and he goes to work.

I try to always praise Daniel for demonstrating friendly behavior. I want him to know how important it is to project a positive demeanor to others. By that same token, when he is snubbed by an unfriendly grouch, I praise him extra loudly (in the hopes that the offending person will learn a little something in the process). If everyone were as happy and friendly as my little guy, the world would be a much more peaceful place!!!